| What We Said | What We Meant | What We Were *Really* Saying |
All of my partners are equally important to me, and they're all primary. | We believe in
non-preferential polyfidelity. | I'd rather not explicitly spell out what the heirarchy is, but trust me -
you'll know when you run into it. |
You two are in dyadic withdrawal. | You two are spending too much time
together. | The fact that you two are having such a good time together is making me jealous. Stop
it! |
You two need to spend some time
working on your dyadic lovejoy. | There is something wrong with your relationship. |
Maybe if you two just fucked each other
for a while you would start liking each other. |
You want communal rooming house. | You want to live in a rented room instead of a
community. | You don’t want to join the commune. |
You want to be married in a church. | You want a husband instead of a community |
You don’t want to join the commune. |
You’re not an idealist. | You can’t join our commune unless you say you are an
idealist. | Why don’t you want to fuck me & my friends? |
She did a nose job on him. | Doing a Nose Job: Where you decide to turn off on someone for
their looks after you already said they were cute enough for you
'Now that I slept with you, I notice you need a nose job!' | She’s shallow and
flighty. |
The Sleeping Schedule is NOT
a sex schedule. | The Sleeping Schedule did not require that you fuck the
person the night you were on with them | The Sleeping Schedule IS a sex schedule. |
She’s spinning. | Different subpersonalities that want different things are being expressed in
rapid succession | She's confused |
You don’t believe in shared leadership. | You can’t be in the commune unless
you say you believe
in shared leadership | You won’t do what we tell you to do. |
He doesn’t understand the World Plan. | What idiot cannot understand a $100 billion budget
from 1,500,000 Keristans in 900,00 B-FIC's? | He’s is
stupid and shallow and just here for the sex |
She’s a vagina on wheels. | She’s a unidealistic nympho | She will keep moving
until something fills her vagina |
She’s a missile-seeking heat | She’s a unidealistic nympho | She just wants
something warm to fill her pussy |
He’s a heat-seeking missile. | He’s a unidealistic nympho | He just wants
something warm
to put his penis in. |
She’s into Mom-ism. | She cares about the welfare of her children
more than she cares about being an
idealist. | She disagrees with the group
about how to discipline her kid. |
He’s being a Bright Student. | He’s is asking questions like a bright student without having
any depth or point to his inquiries. | He’s outwardly engaging,
but really stupid and
shallow. |
I’m just asking for reassurance. | You have done something which makes me feel
like you
don’t love me. | Tell me you love me. |
She has Beautiful Apartment Syndrome. | She would rather have a beautiful apartment than
be an idealist. | She would rather have a nice place to herself
than live with a bunch of dirty hippies
in rundown Victorians that we never clean. |
I'm not angry. | You can't be in the commune if you get angry. |
I'm angry. |
I'm not jealous. | You can't be in the commune if you get jealous. |
I'm jealous. |
He has Family-of-Origin neuroses. | He has a sick attitude towards his parents. |
He's still trying to have a relationship
with his parents. |